The one question that will declutter your home (+ your life)
I'm writing you this email after a long day spent at the beach with my little family and our wonderful friends. It was one of those days where you're left wondering: "How is my life this good?"
It's reminded me of how much I value experiences over things.
Truth be told, I've never really been into material possessions.
Like, really REALLY.
For example, I didn't shop for all of 2012. I only bought two items that year: a new phone I needed for business and a pair of running shoes I needed to better protect my knees and feet.
And that's not all. Apart from not shopping, I'm always making an effort to cleanse myself of what I no longer need. Going through my closet to set aside items to donate makes me feel lighter—like a good Samaritan, even.
There still seems to be a heaviness surrounding my house.
The closets are filled to the brim but I can't seem to find a single thing. The walls seem to scream the word "cluttered." The bags sitting by the front door are begging for attention.
I've known this for a long time, but nothings changes. Luckily, that comes to an end NOW.
Finding the instructional manual I needed
One morning a few weeks ago, I was doing my usual take-advantage-of-the-baby's-nap thing when I opened my computer and found a book that would ultimately change everything for me—and my house.
I opened my favorite feed reader and started encountering post after post about this one book: Marie Kondo's Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.
One friend wrote a detailed summary of her tidying method. Another friend wrote about how light and wonderful she feels after reading and following the book's guidelines. And it continued over the next few days. The book seemed to be following me around the internet! Serendipity has its reasons, so I heeded the call and read the book.
And it was awesome.
Beautifully, Kondo's theory is that tidying our homes is a psychological exercise. She says:
"The question of what you want to own is actually the question of how you want to live your life."
She writes that the way we declutter and create a beautiful home is the same way we create a beautiful life. And the one-stop shop for that is through our joy, like so:
Do the things I own bring me joy? What about the people I surround myself with? Or the activities that fill up my time? Does all of it bring me joy?
After finishing the book, it isn't just my house that I'm wreaking havoc on. It's effect are seeping into every corner of my life.
I'm putting my entire life through the sifter, doing some heavy thinking and journaling about what needs to go and what definitely needs to stay.
I hope you'll join me in taking the time to truly consider what brings absolute joy and what is dead weight. And I highly recommend reading the book. It was eye-opening and life-changing in a way that can be started and implemented a few minutes after turning the book's last page.
So, yes, I'm enjoying a weekend away at the beach with my family and friends ... but I'm also looking forward to getting back to my house to continue ransacking every drawer and cabinet.
I'm a little strange, I know. But it's okay, I like it that way. :-)